1. holding stubbornly and often unreasonably to one's own opinions
2. obstinate or conceited with regard to the merit of one's own opinions
3. unduly adhering to one's own opinion or to preconceived notions
4. believing very strongly and conveying it
5. given to or marked by the forceful expression of strongly held opinions
There are opinionated people, and then there are opinionated people. It is the latter that I do not understand. I absolutely do not consider myself to be an opinionated person, although I do have my own opinions on things. So, I struggle to understand what makes this type of person tick. Can anyone shed some light on this for me?
In a nutshell, this is what I take from the opinionated type I am referring to: (see above. mostly #2, closely followed by #5). The problem is, it just totally and utterly rubs me the wrong way!
It seems as though they think that their opinion is the bottom line and those who don't share their opinions or follow their practices are somehow lesser. At least that's the way it comes across.
And here's the deal. I think you should have opinions on whatever you want and you should do things the way you feel works best for you. But why do the "over"-opinionated feel the need to shout their opinions (figuratively speaking) at the top of their lungs, without holding back, without (seemingly) regard to how it may make another person feel?
Is it because they are not the "feeling" type personality (like I am, and that's why it bugs me)?
I am not trying to be a sarcastic jerk, I just honestly want to understand what makes them tick. And I also want to figure out a way that I can stop being irked and offended by them.
Any ideas, dare I say "opinions" here?
4 comments:
You're right. It's rude. It's good to be reminded sometimes. Sometimes, I've been this type and other times, I've had hurt feelings by this type of person. My family is the type of family where we all have our opinions and we want each other to know them, but at the same time, we need to remember to be polite and not overbearing.
What makes people like this tick? I think that it's a control thing. Something deep down tells them that they don't have control or something is missing in their life and so they assert control by pushing their opinions on other people. That's just an idea but I'm really not sure if that would apply across the board. Probably not.
I think of this everytime I log on to facebook. It is an evil sea of opinionated people.
I think they are so over opinionated because they are insecure, much like conceited people. If everyone doesn't see things their way, it shakes their "core belief." And I agree, it's also very likely a control issue. Annoying as all heck!
I guess I don't understand that either then. How can a conceited person be insecure?
Post a Comment