Showing posts with label peeves. Show all posts
Showing posts with label peeves. Show all posts

9.14.2011

sleep sabotage

Isn't this a pretty picture?

Remember how couples used to sleep in separate beds (or you at least remember hearing about this)? I am starting to think they they had the right idea back in those days. And I am seriously contemplating reinstating the idea in our house. I don't know about anybody else, but my husband has some very, very odd sleeping habits. It's been this way ever since we got married, and I am sure he has done it all his life.

There have been times when I have actually been resigned to sleeping on the couch or in the "guest bed" because of his crazy antics. Which include:

*He does this thing, where he will sleep with his hand on his face, elbow up in the air. Well that's all fine and good, but when you are unconscious, gravity takes over and the hand then begins to slide off the face, and if the sound of the sliding hand across the cheek repeatedly isn't annoying enough, there is the subsequent elbow to the head or face (as the hand slides off). My head or face.

*Next, he will start "puffing". It's hard to explain. Basically, when he is exhaling, the breath sort of comes out between his lips and it makes a puffing sound. It is equally as annoying, but not quite as painful as the previous habit.

*Then you've got your regular old snoring on and off.

*I also think that he sleep walks. Just the other night, he got up to go to the bathroom and I saw him go over to his dresser, and open and close the drawer before actually going to the bathroom. He didn't get anything out of the drawer though. Or sometimes he'll get up and just wander around in the living room. Of course, he has no recollection of doing these things, at all.

*Lastly, (and this is the best!) there have been times when I have gotten up to go to the bathroom and he will grab my wrist or around my waist really tightly, as if he is trying to detain me (this makes a little more sense if you know that he is a Police Officer). I admit, it is a little humorous, and we joke about these things a lot. 00

I think I want my own room. Wasn't that the goal when you were growing up, (it was if you had a very large family, like I did) to one day have your very own room. Then we get married, and and it's back to not only sharing a room, but your bed even! I am starting to question the logistics of this.

I guess one benefit of my husband going back on the night shift (the shift switches every 4 months), is that I get the bed ALL TO MYSELF! On the other hand, I feel almost locked out of the bedroom once he gets home from work. Only because I don't want to disturb his sleep.

We dream of one day getting a small piece of property and building a home. Maybe we should build him his very own sound proof sleeping quarters. A place where he can slide his hand, puff away, snore and wander around, without disturbing anyone else (me!). A place where he can also pile his "stuff" to his heart's content and I don't have to look at it every day. That's a whole different topic though.







8.28.2011

o·pin·ion·at·ed

1. holding stubbornly and often unreasonably to one's own opinions


2. obstinate or conceited with regard to the merit of one's own opinions


3. unduly adhering to one's own opinion or to preconceived notions


4. believing very strongly and conveying it


5. given to or marked by the forceful expression of strongly held opinions


There are opinionated people, and then there are opinionated people. It is the latter that I do not understand. I absolutely do not consider myself to be an opinionated person, although I do have my own opinions on things. So, I struggle to understand what makes this type of person tick. Can anyone shed some light on this for me?

In a nutshell, this is what I take from the opinionated type I am referring to: (see above. mostly #2, closely followed by #5). The problem is, it just totally and utterly rubs me the wrong way!

It seems as though they think that their opinion is the bottom line and those who don't share their opinions or follow their practices are somehow lesser. At least that's the way it comes across.

And here's the deal. I think you should have opinions on whatever you want and you should do things the way you feel works best for you. But why do the "over"-opinionated feel the need to shout their opinions (figuratively speaking) at the top of their lungs, without holding back, without (seemingly) regard to how it may make another person feel?

Is it because they are not the "feeling" type personality (like I am, and that's why it bugs me)?

I am not trying to be a sarcastic jerk, I just honestly want to understand what makes them tick. And I also want to figure out a way that I can stop being irked and offended by them.

Any ideas, dare I say "opinions" here?